I am realizing more and more my issues with control…😬
Kids have a way of reflecting your poorest qualities back at you. I believe God designed them this way as a means of conviction to bring parents to greater sanctification. Or maybe He just finds it entertaining; I don’t know.
My husband was at a men’s conference simulcast, so as a special “take our minds off missing Papa” thing, we declared dinner time tea party time.
To be honest, toddlers are complete trolls. They’re nasty little creatures. But they’re also precious to watch. As tiny, semi-functional human beings with no sense of guilt or shame, that level of ignorant innocence is just sublime.
As my daughter pulled a “do you have the time?” spill for the 4th time, I was really trying to breathe away the anxiety.
There’s no use freaking out over spilled tea, right?
But I struggle daily with letting go of demanding perfectionism in my kids. Why should I hold them to standards I can’t even meet myself? Because I want better for them. I want them to succeed. I want them to avoid all the mistakes I made. That’s what every parent wants for their kids, isn’t it?
The thing is, they’re kids. Really, really, small, clumsy, awkward, little, toddlery kids. And much to my chagrin, they aren’t perfect. And the best I can do is make the things we do together more about building relationship and making our home a “safe” place to fail so they learn to run to us for help. More importantly, so they learn to run to Christ for help.
So we had tea.
And I almost had a series of heart-attacks. But I stifled my OCD-need for perfection, order, and etiquette for the sake of making memories with my littles, while they’re still little.
My oldest son said the other night, “Mom, you’re my favorite girl.” I don’t know how much longer that’s going to be the case, but I’m going to capitalize on being the center of my kids’ world as long as I can and do my best to surrender my own failings and hang-ups to God so that we can actually enjoy each other’s company before they’re off having tea parties with their own children.